Controversial media personality Kemi Olunloyo recalls in an interview with IBTimesUK how her folks took her at age 5 and her sister to visit an old man, who made both of them lay on his laps “and then cut part of our v*gina and clitoral area off.”
Kemi reveals that during the process a razor blade was used and no anaesthetic was administered for the pain as she bled for close to a week, and as a result, years later she fakes org*sms during s*x.
Kemi says her experience with female genital mutilation (FGM),which occurred at a secluded area behind the Oja Oba market in Ibadan, capital of Nigeria’s Oyo state left an indelible mark on her life even 50-years after.
“There was no anaesthetic and a sharp razor blade was used. I remember my sister and I screaming afterwards. We went home bleeding in diapers and, for a week, it was like we were little girls with menstrual periods. My mom was bathing us and diapering us. Deep down, mom was not happy for some reason,” Olunloyo told IBTimes UK.
After years of resentment towards her mother, Olunloyo finally confronted her in 2012. “She burst into tears telling me that our late paternal grandmother ordered my dad to have us do it,” she explained.
“This tradition is over 70-years-old. Our grandmother was a traditional Muslim woman who dictated many rules to her young son, my dad.”
Kemi says the psychological and physical consequences of the mutilation still linger in her life saying she doesn’t experience org*sm during s*x.
“Calling it an operation is nothing. It was a cultural barbaric act used to decrease the female libido. It caused me post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for life,” she said.
“I don’t experience org*sm during s*x and when I tried to promote the use of s*x toys among Nigerian women, men started attacking me saying I was discouraging African women ‘from the real thing’.
“S*x is not important. I have no libido or urge to have s*x and I’ve been celibate for 10 years. Millions of women in Nigeria go through this, but they cannot talk or be outspoken like me. It is shameful and a disgrace to them,” she continued.
“Many women say they fake org*sms and others have husbands who go out to call girls and girlfriends. FGM has destroyed marriages here.”